Thankyou for letting me be your online guide to peace and emotional healing.

I am Karen Grisham, and no matter what loss you have experienced, you need to take time to comfort your heart. It's okay to feel pain. It's normal to feel anxious and depressed.

But I want you to know too, that there is relief from your emotional suffering. I know. I've been there, and I want to help you during this challenging time in your life.

I hope that you will find peace here, a breath of fresh air, and a moment of solitude to comfort your heart of hearts.

Look for my articles on a variety of topics in Ezine Articles. You can find many valuable ideas here and you are welcome to reprint these articles and use them on your own site.

Usually what you are experiencing is normal. I know that doesn't ease the pain for you right now, but at least you don't need to worry about doing grief ‘right’. There is no right way. Whatever will comfort your heart is what is right for you.

Life will gradually clear, but it does take time. I would focus on being open in talking about your loved one, allow yourself and others to express their feelings safely, without criticism or judgment.

Give each other lots of grace. You are doing double duty, grieving, and trying to support other grievers. Cry together, remember together and laugh together.

An additional coping technique is to write your loved one a letter. Pour out your feelings, positive and negative, telling her (him) what you would say if you could turn back the clock.

Often we have uncomfortable feelings after a death or breakup. These can include guilt, remorse, helplessness, hopelessness, loneliness and emotional paralysis, to name a few.

Some sentiments I have heard expressed are

• “I feel I let him down”.


• “The hurt and loneliness I feel will never go away.”


• “I am bereft without her.”


• “The night that he died we had a disagreement.”


• “I know it will never get better in my heart.”


• “Shock overwhelmed me.”


• “I think I'm struck with a sense of guilt.”


• “I can only imagine her loss.”


• “I will try to make her know that my stupid pride and my self-centeredness (sp)will never come in between us again.”

Within these pages, my goal is to comfort your heart in whatever ways are meaningful for you. Some people are comforted by learning about their experience, finding out they are responding in a normal way for their circumstances.

Others gain solace from reading about the experiences of others. Some of you will follow connections to other parts of the site that are more specific to your need.

I want to provide the support you are looking for. I have published links in my pages to other sites and resources that I feel contain useful, accurate and supportive information.

My commitment is to continue to add information and products that will enhance your life, comfort your heart, and help you move on and grow stronger from your loss.

So get a warm cup of tea, sit down with me and browse through the pages of this site. You can contact me to comment on the site, ask questions, or suggest ideas for a new page.

I welcome your participation, this site is for you, so please stay in touch!

Local Practice News: I will be providing medication management only, and my office practice is currently closed to new clients.

I no longer offer telephone BSFF and EFT. Feel free to contact me with any questions you may have.

I hope you will also take advantage of my newsletter "Comfort Lines" to keep up on information about grief and loss. We try to lighten the mood a little with tales of our pets and other topics from time to time. It comes to your mailbox with solace and soothing words to comfort your heart.

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It would have been helpful to have some of the tools I have now, at that time.

Sometimes education is the key, learning about what you are going through, and finding others who share the experience.

Other times, other techniques work better. We hope you stay around to learn how to comfort your heart. See how others have managed loss in their lives, and commit to grow.